Is there something impacting your self-trust and ability to feel safe in your body and move through the world seamlessly?
Have you or someone you know been impacted by trauma?
Do you ever feel triggered or have an extreme reaction?
Unprocessed feelings and emotions are buried within ourselves, and sometimes they come out. Anxiety, PTSD, panic attacks, rage, irrational fears, self-abuse, addictive behaviors, hopelessness and numbness are a few indicators of trauma.
While there is a common thread of what creates trauma, the debilitating impact can only be understood by the person who has experienced it.
The good news is that if you are reading this, then allow yourself to know that you have agency to reconcile these feelings. You can and will heal.
ROOT CAUSE OF TRAUMA
As a child, you’re still learning how to be in this world. Your body, your mind, and your energy is malleable and receptive to the external environment. Because children depend on the survival of their parents, they are completely open energetically, verbally, emotionally, and physically.
Think about it.
What boundaries can they create? Who teaches them, respects them, and reinforces them?
If you as a child don’t have space to explore your feelings, curiosities, confusions, uncertainties, how will you develop the self-trust, safety, and internal foundation that no world can rock?
Unknowingly, parents that don’t empathize with the child’s experience of the world nor understand what they’re unconsciously teaching them, create leaky energetic boundaries for the child.
This is one of the reasons we are advised to not allow children to watch videos and play games that depict violence of any type without understanding and explaining the context to it.
A child’s perception is not developed enough to differentiate negative patterns from positive ones. Love, patience, and affirmation is essential to a child’s development even if they misbehave.
Any kind of abusive or aggressive situation that an adult dismisses, unexpectedly and repeatedly, will create a response in a child’s nervous system to shut down.
After all, our subconscious is designed to play it safe in order to protect us, just not in the way we thought it would.
If we don’t reconcile our childhood trauma within, then we carry these patterns with us through life.
Healing is the basis of uncovering the story behind it and moving on a path to discovering the free agency we have over one’s life.
HOW TO FIGHT TRAUMA
The holistic perspective factors in unprocessed emotions. There are holding patterns and stuck energies waiting to be moved out, acknowledged, and healed.
You got to feel it to heal it.
- Connect with your emotion
- Put a name to the feeling
- Identify what your need was
- As an adult, find a way to get that need met
For example: Anger.
Anger should not be dismissed, nor suppressed. Rather it should have a safe space for it to be expressed and understood. Anger is a natural emotion. Passive Aggressiveness is not. It is a result of not being able to connect that anger and vocalizing one’s need.
Adults who observed unhealthy expressions such as anger in their households during their childhood, growing up with an idea that anger is not an acceptable emotion.
Another example: Guilt
A common emotion victims will experience is guilt for being assaulted, and for being abused.
Why is that?
Perhaps there is an inner critic that denies victimhood. It’s almost as if common culture lacks compassion or acceptance for one’s smallness, or one’s vulnerability to feeling helpless, out of control, confused and scared.
In a culture that values success and power, coming to terms with these tender emotions is uncomfortable. There is no time or space to explore these feelings because of the expectation to “get over it.”
If you as a child don’t have space to explore your feelings, curiosities, confusions, uncertainties, how will you as an adult create self-trust, internal safety, and self-love that no world can rock?
PARENTS ROLE IN OVERCOMING CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Parents are guardians for their children’s mental and spiritual health. While we can’t predict traumatic events from happening, we can develop the inner groundwork to handle them. This applies to your inner child if you want to feel fully integrated and whole.
- Instill your love and care in both words as well as actions. Especially when you are disciplining or modifying behavior. That way punishment and discipline isn’t associated with “I am not loved. I am not worthy.”
- Nurture your child’s feeling of safety. Gentleness and patience are qualities that children are receptive to. When they are afraid, listen. Give space to explore their feelings and help give voice to them. This teaches them to self-soothe and builds trust in you, and in themselves.
- When heated arguments and conflicts arise, pause. Ask for space, take a walk, feel centered and calm before moving through a conflict. One cannot think clearly and act in regret-free ways, when the limbic system is in fight/flight mode. Sets healthy boundaries, especially when your child is learning to model behavior.
- Practice being present and listening to what your child has to say. If you are busy, then make sure that you set and honor a consistent time in your schedule to play and spend time with your child.
- >Avoid comparisonitis. Your child’s self-esteem is important. There is a difference between healthy competition and comparison. One encourages growth and goal-setting. The other plays on with feelings of unworthiness. Appreciate tiny achievements and teach them to celebrate the failures. Help them fight their fears and grow their passion.
These simple steps can make your child strong enough to handle any difficult situation in life. Moreover, practicing this for yourself can also help nurture and restore the goodness of your inner child.
WAYS TO WALK THROUGH TRAUMA
Undoubtedly it is difficult to quickly heal the traumatic memories as sometimes, the wounds are not external but have gone deep down the skin of the survivor. However, with the right techniques and pure intentions, one can heal the worst traumatic experiences of their lives. Some of the mind-body healing techniques are mentioned below which can be practiced consistently.
- Practice yoga, meditation, and simple mindfulness techniques while keeping your feet firmly on the ground so that you are connected to earth for the negative energies to get grounded.
- Drink more water as it keeps you hydrated and naturalizes the negative energies in the body.
- Take a walk in the garden, on the green grass, barefoot. Let yourself connect to nature.
- Watch inspirational movies and read books on constructive topics.
- Talk to yourself about what happened to you, affirm your problem and understand that what has happened in the past would only affect your present if you allow it to do so.
- Surround yourself with more people who talk about the good things in life and try to stay away from people who always complain about their lives and negative aspects of things, people, and events.
How can Healing Clouds Help Overcome Trauma?
Healing Clouds offers a variety of holistic healing modalities practiced by certified practitioners who can help you overcome any type of traumatic event you have endured.
Each of these healing modalities can help you move through trauma, while learning tools to empower and reclaim your wholeness.
We offer compassionate, caring professionals here to hold space for you to process and integrate your experience. The sessions are done through HIPAA compliant online video call at the privacy and comforts of your home.
Some of the best holistic healing modalities recommended for traumatic disorders are Reiki, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Matrix Energetics, NLP, Hypnosis, Somatic Experience, Psychotherapy.
Speak to holistic healing practitioners. It’s time finally break free from your history, and build a foundation for your wellbeing.